Grief … losing someone

Have you lost someone close to you? How are doing today? Just take it one day at a time. When I lost my brother we termed it that a “Bus came along” at various times and hit us. Random schedule, sometimes out of the blue, sometimes I’d see him driving a car going the opposite way (it wasn’t of course but he had a beard and it would be someone with one). Very gradually the bus schedule got more infrequent and eventually stopped running!

Grief passes through stages, stages that may cycle around and sometimes repeat, there is no typical grieving process, no standard process … Why?

Because we are all different, we are all in our own way UNIQUE, SPECIAL, INDIVIDUAL! During a grieving process you will in lessor or greater degrees experience …

Denial: This can’t be happening.

Anger: Why did this happen? Who is to blame?

Bargaining: Make this not happen and I will…

Depression: I can’t bear this; I’m too sad to do anything.

Acceptance: I acknowledge that this has happened, and I cannot change it.

Just take it one day at a time … it WILL slowly get easier. Try a smile! Some days you’ll manage it, some days maybe it’s not quite the right time yet … think positive – you’ll get there. NHS website has helpful links … or … We are here if you would like to talk to one of us.

Martin

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